What should I do...

Dear LCD,

Me and the “Boys” always find fun things to do to entertain ourselves. We’ll just a couple of weeks ago we overheard some other guys say that the local Strip Club is having Tuesday specials. We though it’d be fun to check it out. So we were all sitting in a corner drinking our drinks and having small talk about life in general, then I noticed from the corner of my eye a familiar face. As I turn around I see my buddy’s little sister getting on stage!!!! I quickly turned my back to the stage cause that’s not what I wanted to see… well it was but not from her. This girl I’ve known since she was 5-6…. So it’s almost like seeing my little sister naked. Not good… Anyways I decided that it would be best for us to leave and not let her see me there since she was doing a job, and I didn’t want to ruin it for her. Now I’ve ran into people I know working at strip clubs before, and it’s normally just old co-workers and stuff like that. But this is different. I’ve told my little sister about it since it was her friend that I saw there. But I really don’t want her parents to find out, since they have enough family issues as it is. I have all sorts of crazy thoughts running through my mind, because I know her brother goes to strip clubs pretty often. What if he see’s her there?!? WOW, I know I’d go ballistic. Anyways, it’s Tuesday again and the guys just called and requested my presence… should I go and hope I don’t run into her? Should I be the bearer of bad news and call her brother up and give him the low down on his sis? Or should I let him find out on his own?

Concerned in TX

Dear Concerned in TX,

You did the right thing by leaving the club. You should call her brother and tell him immediately. You don't want him to walk-in on her dancing or him overhearing it from another guy. It would not be pretty, especially if there was alcohol involved. He may cause a scene or get into a scuffle with a bouncer. You should call your friend and talk to him...IN PERSON. This is not an issue to be dealt with over the phone, text or email. You guys have been friends for many years, you should respect him enough to be honest. Hopefully from there, he will talk with his sister and deal with the situation. The sooner the better. I also don't think you should go to that bar again until you know she isn't working there. That could create quite the wedge between you and your friend.

I'll leave you with this: If your friend were to have to tell you this same news about your sister, how would you prefer he handle it? How would you want to find out about it? Think about that -- really think about it, then react. I'm sure you'll do the right thing.

Good Luck,

Life Coach Dallas